'I don't know if I can forgive husband for his affair – I still want to throttle him'

A woman whose husband had an affair admitted she doesn't know how she's going to forgive him.

Taking to Mumsnet, she confessed she couldn't understand how marriages "survive infidelity" seven months after the cheating was exposed. "He completely denied it at first and tried to explain away evidence I had found but I knew in my gut that I was right," she said.

"I threw him out of the marital home and was completely heartbroken." Her spouse insisted he had not been physically involved with the other woman, but after some digging, she realised this wasn't true. "She is nothing like me at all and I do wonder what the attraction was, but he has since told me that it could have been anyone who paid him some attention," the woman continued.

According to her, the extra-marital relationship continued an entire month after he was kicked out. Eventually he realised "he didn't actually want her and he wanted me all along".

In an attempt to seek reconciliation, the man agreed to marriage counselling sessions and has frequently expressed regret. However, it seems like it's not enough.

"I don't trust him and feel seven months on I could still throttle him for what he has done to our family," the woman continued. "My counsellor says it will take take time but if me and DH are invested in making it work it will. I'm not so sure.

"Has anyone had experience of this and it has all worked out? Or am I best to just get on with my life?"

The responses she received were mixed, with some offering hope through their personal stories. One person shared: "Seven months is very, very early days for affair recovery. All the data says at least two years. We are about 18 months into recovery after my H [husband] had an affair lasting several months,